It’s just another day

Well readers today I was supposed to be walking down the aisle. Yes guys, you read that correctly. Me, Kat, was supposed to be getting married to the love of her life today. I’ve never really told you guys much about me. I’m sure you can piece together here and there from the posts, but this was the biggest thing I haven’t really talked about. I’ll save the details for another post, but the reason I wanted to talk about this today was because I’ve had a lot of friends tells me their ex’s would text them on their not happening wedding dates.

This got me thinking. Why would you text your ex on the day you were supposed to be getting married? It’s just another day now, nothing special happening. Why would you reach out to someone who you either A) broke up with or B) they left you, only to remind them of a day that will never happen. What on earth do you even text them? “Hey, remember our wedding was suppose to be today… I hope you’re thinking of our failed relationship?” Like who does this? You don’t see me reaching for my phone to text my ex. Reminding him of the day he canceled so he could go find happiness elsewhere. We all make choices in our life. But what we need to do is not look back on these decisions and wonder what if. We need to look forward and keeping moving in that direction, because we will have that special day someday. I’m sure a lot of girls who were suppose to get married think on that day and envision themselves in their dress walking down the aisle. But here’s the kicker, the guy you envisioned at the end of the aisle? He doesn’t want to be there. So why reach out to him?

If you’re doing it to inflict pain on the other person, than you’re just plain evil. Who would try to purposefully hurt someone? That’s just beyond cruel. All you’re doing is undigging the past and shoving it back into their face. Not only are you causing pain on the other person, but also yourself for taking those ideas in your head and physically typing them out. I’m sure your failed wedding day is hard and all you can envision is what if.. but instead of that why don’t you think about your future where you’ll have an actual wedding and the right guy will be waiting for you at the end of the alter, smiling.

This isn’t some movie where you can text your ex in hopes he will show up at your work or your house wishing you’d come back to him. No, that was a finite decision to let you and any hope of the future you may have had go.

Well readers here is what I am doing on my not so wedding day. I kept the limo and I’m taking it out for a much needed friends night out. I bought a cute outfit, I’m doing my hair and makeup, and I’m enjoying this day anyway I can. I have one life to live, so why not make the best of it? We’re heading to one of the bigger cities and dancing until the wee hours of the morning. Today isn’t a failed anything, it’s a day in which I take charge of my life and go on as many adventures as I can. I have no pain for this day, nor am I looking back on it wondering what if. My ex did me a favor when he made the decision to let us go and for that I am grateful. It allows me to find me again and to live my life with adventure and serendipity.

Don’t worry I’ll fill you in on all the details tomorrow

Until then,

XOXO

Kat